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The Golden Key #3 to Quit Porn Addiction - CHOOSING THE RIGHT TECHNIQUE

“Practice does not make perfect. Only perfect practice makes perfect.” Vince Lombardi People wrongly believe that “ Practice makes a man perfect ”, but they never stop to think that it's a half-truth and the reality is that “ Only perfect practice makes a man perfect. '' But in the case of Porn addicts, even that belief does not hold good. Because “ Only perfect practice of the perfect thing makes a man perfect. '' Porn addicts try to quit porn for a few days and relapse, they start again and do the same things they did at the start and fail again. They think that if they practice quitting porn enough times, they will succeed eventually. But alas! that is not the case. To learn juggling, you need to practice. But if you practice the wrong technique, you are heading towards failure. To master juggling, you need to practice the right technique in the right way. If you keep practicing failure, you will learn to fail again and again and again. What I strongly believe is

The Golden Key #2 to Quit Porn Addiction - IMAGINATION

“Our thoughts and imagination are the only real limits to our possibilities.” Orison Swett Marden Emile Coue was a French psychologist and pharmacist who introduced a popular method of psychotherapy and self-improvement based on autosuggestion or self-suggestion. He is mostly known for his famous autosuggestion “ Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better. ” He has cured countless men of their psychological and physiological diseases with just auto-suggestion. He has famously said, “ When the imagination and will power are in conflict, are antagonistic, it is always the imagination which wins, without any exception. ” But we go through lives using our weak will to fight strong habits and addictions which use our own imagination against us. Countless people are quitting porn and masturbation countless times and relapsing again and again and again. Do you know what the problem is? It’s the use of will power more than the power of their imagination. How many times were you ab

The Golden Key #1 to Quit Porn Addiction - CONSISTENCY

“It's not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It's what we do consistently.” Anthony Robbins All the tips, techniques and the methods on the internet, in the books, in the lectures are just temporary fixes. But ask anyone who has crossed that 30 days or 90 days mark and he will tell you that “ I did not do different things, I just did things differently and the secret of my success was CONSISTENCY, I was consistent with whatever I did “. Successful people don’t do different things they do things differently. The millions of addicts are proof of “The Power of Consistency”, they are very consistent about their behavior, they get horny when alone, they watch porn after school, they jack off when depressed, etc. And the billions of nonaddicts or thousands of recovered addicts are proof of “The Power of consistency” too, they don’t watch porn, that’s what they are consistent with. If you really want to quit porn, you need to find a method and stick to it. Because consi

Why Do You Fail To Quit Porn Addiction Every Time?

“Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” Martin Luther King Jr. All the exercises in this blog have two parts. Part one is “ What do I do? ” which guides you step by step through the exercises, and part two is “ Why do I do it? ” which gives you a brief explanation about how and why the exercises work. When it is dark, you switch on the light. You don’t sit down studying how electricity, a light bulb or the light switch work. You just switch on the light. And I want you to do the same thing with the exercises on this blog. Don’t read the “ Why do I do it? ” part first. Just do the exercises as described, to the letter. Then, and only then study why you did what you did and why and how it works. There are multiple explanations for how some of these techniques work and you don’t need to know them for these techniques to work. The techniques work if you do them as described. So, do the exercises first and if you want to know

How Do I Know If I am Addicted to Porn?

“Before you can break out of prison, you must realize you are locked up.” Anonymous If you have chills, sweating, dehydration, headache, muscle aches and pains, a feeling of weakness and loss of appetite, chances are that you might be suffering from a Viral Fever. Because these are the general symptoms of Viral Fever. You would completely agree with me that to cure a disease, you first have to know that you have one. Then you have to know which disease it is. Then and only then you would be able to medicate yourself. It is no different with Porn Addiction, which to me is no less than a disease which requires immediate medication. If you are reading this blog, you would have already experienced and still experiencing the effects of porn and masturbation. But if you think you are not addicted to porn and masturbation, consider this: - Fish don't know they're in the water  If you tried explaining it, they'd say, "Water? What's water?" They're so surrounded by

What is Porn Addiction and How to Quit it?

"Addiction is the disease that makes you too selfish to see the havoc you created or care about the people whose lives you have shattered.” Anonymous P orn is “ P leasuring O n R egressed N onsense , ” said one porn addict and the other addict said that porn is “ The Pursuit Of Pleasure in Pixels ”. But whatever you think porn is, one thing is for sure, that Porn is a parasite. It steals your life from you, it feeds off your time and potential to grow and be what you truly can be. It gradually destroys your time, dignity, self-esteem and potential. It has a kind of negative hypnotic effect, that is, it grabs and then keeps your focus of attention locked until you wake up from the porn trance feeling empty, worthless, exhausted and miserable, your self-esteem destroyed. Porn and masturbation are a deadly duo. They can ruin your physical, mental, and spiritual life. They have ruined marriages, careers and lives of hundreds and thousands of people who were not aware of how dangerous

Porn addiction and Medical Science

“A man who views the world the same at 50 as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life.” Muhammad Ali There’s an old saying in the teaching world: “ Tell them what you’re going to tell them. Then tell them. And then tell them what you told them .” And so, as you move through this blog, you’ll probably notice much repetition of thoughts and ideas, because we usually learn best through repetition. There are few things in this blog which are not scientifically proven yet and when you come across them, you will have two options to choose from. Try those things and prove their effectiveness for yourself. Or, wait until there is scientific proof for their effectiveness before you try them. But be aware, if you go for the second option, you would have to wait for a few decades before the scientific world catches up with the lived experience   of porn addicts. And it would be too late for you.  Always remember that science will always lag behind the lived experience. The case with every new

Can you Quit Porn Addiction?

"Having only one option is not an option"  Anonymous You can quit porn, you can definitely quit porn, but quitting porn is not like uninstalling an app from your phone. You cannot quit porn by just deleting your porn collection and activating porn filters on your phone and PC. You know very well from your past experiences that once the time comes, you will deactivate all the filters and you will download the porn again. So, quitting porn requires techniques, which deal with your mind and body. And these series of blogs will give you just that. You will find more than 45 techniques to quit porn on this blog. When you have a fever and you know it, the best possible thing is to do something about it. But, if you sit down thinking and studying why you got the fever or how you could have avoided it or how it works, it will be just a waste of time. The fever will remain unaffected by your thinking or studying about it. Similarly, you are reading this blog because you are addicted t

Porn Addiction As a Three-Part Loop

 " We shape our tools and afterward our tools shape us." Marshall McLuhan   The life of a porn addict can be thought of as a three-part loop which he goes through repeatedly.  This loop consists of three phases - the Relapse, the Reboot, and the Retreat. The Relapse or phase one is when he goes back to his old ways of watching porn from a successful streak, the Reboot or phase two is when he is away from porn on a successful streak for any amount of time, and the Retreat or phase three is when the porn cravings hit him hard and he slowly moves back towards phase one or the Relapse. The porn addict behaves differently in each one of these phases.  During phase one when he relapses, he is full of guilt and shame. During this phase, he has every reason to quit porn and every reason why porn is bad for him. He is full of motivation to quit porn and to get his life back on track. He will delete his porn collection, gets porn filters for his phone and PC, decides to exercise, medit